Are you friends with your ex?

After a break up, people choose to distance themselves from their ex’s or be close to them. Depending on the nature of your break up, choosing to be close with your ex or not is completely dependent on how you broke up in the first place.

For most people, the reason why they want to be close with their ex’s is that they want to get them back. It’s not exactly a bad idea to befriend your ex after a break up. Getting back with your ex may be on top of your mind if you feel that you broke up for all the wrong reasons. Honestly, there really is no harm in befriending your ex after a break up but it doesn’t necessarily mean that you can get back with your ex if you do this though. If it happens that you and your ex were very good friends or best friends even before you took the next step, then chances are you will revert back to that status if the relationship ended in good terms. Note that whenever you are with your ex, it may be awkward for a time considering how close you two were but it shouldn’t stop you from getting close with him/her regardless of your intentions why you want to be close in the first place. Getting back with your ex takes a lot of hard work, patience and determination; just because you want to get back with your ex doesn’t mean that your ex also wants to get back with you. If you and your ex share the same circle of friends, then it shouldn’t be hard to be close with him/her.

Just give them and yourself ample time to recover from the break up before you start deciding on befriending them again. It may take some time to recover from a break up but it is necessary for you and your ex if you want to be close with them or remain friends with them. Remember, when relationships fail, your friends will be the one to help you go through with it and it doesn’t hurt to add more to your list of friends.