Why we need relationships – a simple reflection

The coined phrase “no man is an island” clearly holds true to the existence of a human being. From friends, families to lovers, we all need someone to depend on and hold on to.

Whether it involves family members, friends or a lover, we all need someone to make our lives meaningful and true enough; every person you meet in this world and in your lifetime will have an effect in your life, be it good or bad. Focusing on the romantic aspect of relationships, we will most definitely have our own fair share of romance and heartaches, of the joy of a first date to the sadness of a break up, of getting serious to getting married. Truth is, relationships are very unpredictable and can change its pace in the blink of an eye. Be it circumstances beyond our own control or our own conscious actions, everything we do and say can change the course of a relationship and this just does not apply to those romantically involved but to family and friends as well. It all comes down to one thing when it comes to relationship: to fulfill the need of companionship. We can never survive on our own and psychologically, we were born to interact and if we don’t have that interaction, it can have adverse psychological effects. Family and friends are there, whether we want them to be or not and we can always rely on them to be there for us. But a lover can fulfill needs that they can’t provide; the need to be loved and cared for, intimacy, the desire to be that right guy/girl. From the preparing for a first date to going on dates more often to getting serious to popping/answering the big question to getting married, it’s all one big process when it comes to romance. The only twist in love stories is the sad ending or a break up. We never want to break up with our lover but if it’s because of uncontrollable circumstances or controlled actions, we can never predict what’s in store for our lover, but the beauty of it is that you get to live by the day and take every single moment that you’re together with your partner and make it the happiest moment of your life, whether it’s a simple romantic monthly anniversary dinner or a night out at the coffee shop.

Our happiest and saddest moments happen when we are in love and that is what makes life worth living and the beauty of a romantic relationship is that we live and love by the day, making every single moment perfect for us and our lovers. It’s an unpredictable course in our lives and it’s a down trodden path to a lifetime of happiness and joy.

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First Date Mistakes: Possible Slips and Tips to Take

First dates are crucial especially if you would want to start a budding relationship with that special someone. Because of such an impact, an event like a first date must be thoroughly planned and acted in the best possible way. But oftentimes, the strands of good luck are not always on our side. There would be a minor percent in the course of the overall date that might turn into something unexpected; and if not resolved may end up ruining the whole momentum and the possible connection.

Let me stress out that first date mistakes will and can occur. The error may be minor as an insect bite and as major as a possible date cancellation. But some of these incidents are either circumstantial or deliberate.

Circumstantial mistakes are slips that are purely out of control. One does not bear its responsibility. Here are some probable first date circumstantial mistakes and your probable first hand in control solution.

• Date Venue is full. If you don’t have prior reservations, tendency this first date pitfall can happen. But of course, if this would happen then try to find another place that can compensate on the first visited venue. This may be of equal leverage with the former or perhaps better. Do not find an alternative place that is lower than the first one and don’t even bother to wait in line unless your date wants the idea.

• Event cancellation. If you happened to conduct your first date on the realms of a movie house, a theatre or a concert, then there are times that it might get cancelled. Unless you are a VIP then you can demand a show run. But if this would occur, find an alternative event that can balance the date. Or you can simply shove away the concert and conduct it instead in a karaoke bar.

• Power outage. This would be a very unlucky circumstance to be in. But nonetheless, pursue with the date and take it a notch higher. Perhaps a little candlelight dinner would be nice. In addition a probable star gazing after the meal would add up to a date’s spice.

Deliberate mistakes are errors that anyone can do both accidentally and on purpose. To name a few here are the following.

• Getting too personal. Of course the objective of the first date is to know your date better. But it would be very important to notice also boundaries and privacies. It would be advisable to not to talk about too personal stuffs like a former break up unless your date started to share it with you.

• Offensive lines. If you are the type of person who usually says things offensively in a casual way, then be aware of your mouth the moment you are in a date. But if you already said that offensive line, then better apologize. Explain why you said such and provide a better atmosphere with your date. And better not to do that again.

• Wrong questions. Through the course of the conversation there are questions reserved for the next few dates but never on a first date. Remember the first deliberate mistake one can deliver.

Mistakes are part of a human’s life. No one is perfect thus there is no perfect date either. Whichever the case will be, bounce back from a probable mistake and learn from it.

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